Yea.. there is no point in advising someone about how they should do something. More than that, we shouldn’t advice anyone at all – even if it is accepted and obeyed.
Because, each and every mind is unique and it has its own layers or filters of logic for understanding and perception. Its a unique combination which cannot be replicated. Even the physically alike twins have different minds. So, your experience – I mean your mind experience, your feelings are different from that of someone else in the same situation. The degree of pain or pleasure experienced by one mind is always different from another for the same condition.
So, what is the whole point of giving advices to people based on your experience or principles? All that you can do is, if you want to really help, just inform them based on your kno-how. It is then up to the individual and it becomes their responsibility to choose what they really want. You cannot tell them what they ‘want’!
In my opinion, this applies for everyone in all walks of life. Whether it is as important as choosing a career or a life partner or as simple as choosing an ice-cream flavor! 😉
And if you are going to advice people and push them to make decisions, then can you bear the responsibility for their life or their mind experience? Can you be 100% sure that they will be happy about it all the time in their life? And even if you say so, don’t you think the person has to develop responsibility for their life and make decisions for themselves rather depending on someone else for their life? Be it mother or father or friend or whom so ever it may be!
Either ways – I believe it is better to just to help some make an informed decision rather than to push them with advices!
Most importantly, I am not saying that we should not listen to advices. Of course we should! But use our own brain to analyze and choose what is good for us at that point of time based on the given / known information. Not just blindly follow some one’s advice.
There is a thin line of difference between
– telling some one what they should do or don’t do and
– telling some one what ‘can’ possibly happen if they do or don’t do something
and my point is, let us stay behind the line and stop with just informing others and not actually influencing them to make a particular decision!